Violence in relationships is a reality for far too many women in our community, especially young women. The CDC estimates that at least one in every 3 women will be the victim of violence in a relationship at some point, and our history at our agency suggests that for many women violent relationships often start in their teens and twenties. This violence often impacts all aspects of a woman’s life and makes it difficult for her to seek health care, find support from her family and friends, or to support herself and her children financially. Her partner may not only control where she goes and who she talks to, but may limit her access to contraception and coerce her into unwanted sexual activities.
Women who are being abused by
their partners often carry around shame and guilt for their violence. They are isolated from community supports,
and feel they have nowhere to turn. Our
communities must be prepared to recognize violence and provide support for
victims in order to turn around this epidemic of violence. We all must know the signs:
Each of us can be the
bridge a woman needs to safety in her life. We can help her to change her
situation. The first step is to listen to her and believe her. She may never have been able to share this
before, so she may need to talk for a while.
It is important to let her know that you believe her. If anything, she is likely minimizing the
violence she has experienced. It is
every bit as difficult as she is telling you.
The next step is to connect her with supportive services. Your local domestic violence agency is a
powerful resource and ally for her. Help
her get in touch with the agency by sitting with her and helping her with the
contact. Finally, she needs you to keep
the door open and help break the isolation she is experiencing. She may not be ready to leave. She may not be ready to do anything. Just by talking to her and listening to her,
your support can help her start to see her way to safety - the first step on her
path.
- Injuries that don’t match the explanation or recurrent injuries
- Fear or anxiety about a partner’s response to a situation
- Reluctance to participate in activities without a partner’s permission
- Withdrawal from family, friends and social situations